It is easy to get stuck in the same cycle of going on one bad date to another. You only need to think outside of the box and make the leap to make things more exciting. By committing to going on a date, the girl first off must at least like you, and is pinning their hopes on you. Things always don’t work out, and when they do its great. If they don’t, at least you can leave a lasting impression which is what you should be shooting for. A little creativity will go a long way in making you the ultimate date, so forget the same old dinner and movie routine and start doing exciting things.
Have no expectations
After going on countless dates, that feeling of hopping that this one will be ‘the one’ is unavoidable most times. This puts extra pressure on the date that you honestly don’t need. Remember that dating should be fun, so forget about all pre-conceived notions you might have. Keeping an open mind will take a lot of the pressure off the date, allowing you to be more open, spontaneous and fun.
You need to be in command, or at least appear to be. Here, confidence is the key. Women have a way of snuffing out insecurity, so do what you need to do to be the confident man that she is looking for. Take extra care of your grooming. After all, if you look good, you will feel good. You can be a ‘real’ man without being pushy. So be a gentleman, but a gentleman that is in charge and appears to know what he wants.
Make it easy to converse
The first date is the time to know what the other person is all about. It is hard to figure this out if you haven’t made a good environment to talk and communicate. A movie may sound like a safe bet for a first date, but it’s hard to talk during a movie. For one, there is nothing more annoying that having to listen to someone talk through a movie that you have paid your hard earned money for.
Dinner may sound like a good alternative but it might not be. For one, it is hard to talk when you are occupied with food. Another thing is that women can be self conscious about their eating habits. Rather than have her worry about veggies stuck in her teeth of if she is chewing like a lady, think of a date that is much more laid back, and that you can both enjoy getting to know each other.
Find out what she is interested in
Taking a girl out on a date she is actually interested in is always a winning card. It will show that you are thoughtful and that you listen. Find out what she likes to do, and make that a first date. If she likes hiking for example, make a date to go out hiking, preferably somewhere she has never been before. This is an intimate kind of date that can earn you major points if you are able to pull it off just right.
If you have no idea what she is into, her social media page can be a great source of valuable information. This is not a green light to stalk her on Facebook. Find out what her interests are and make a great date out of it.
Think outside the box!
A date doesn’t have to be passive where you both sit and talk to each other. Instead, make a date where you can both get hands on and actually do something. You want to think outside the box and do something that you are both actually going to enjoy. Pottery lessons for example are a great first date that you will both genuinely enjoy. A game of mini-golf, or even kayaking are all great first date ideas.
The point here is to actually get out there and be active. These kinds of dates are not only exciting, but provide great talking points to ease those first date jitters. The little problem of awkward silences will also be taken care of on account on both of you being busy. Doing things together is a great way to bond with your date, and they will hardly say no to a second one.
Cook a great meal
It is not just men who like to have a nice meal cooked for them. Women enjoy being cooked for as well. Learn to cook if you don’t know how to already, and surprise her with a meal if she comes over to your house. You can cook at hers as well, but just be sure to tell her well in advance that you are coming over. You need to give her good time to get her place cleaned up before going over. After cooking, make sure to clean up after yourself, you made it after all.
First dates don’t have to be the same old boring cycle. You only need a little bit of imagination to pull off the ultimate date that she will not forget in a hurry. Keep these things in mind the next time you set up a date.